Commit to the Journey
Some live a life looking for the right answer when instead it is the right path which should be sought.
In competitive running, after a string - or season - of poor results athletes and coaches are often left searching for answers. I've been in this position hundreds of times. And over the course of my coaching career have come to realize there are no right answers, only right paths.
It is human nature to want a reason for why things aren't working out as desired. But the truth is failure and setbacks are apart of the game.
Recently, I've had to walk away from athletes who are not - or no longer - on a shared path. This has been hard because they are not bad people. But I've realized you cannot help anyone who does not want help. And once someone has elected to remove themselves from walking down a path, no outside agent can get them back on track.
Trust me, I've tried, often far longer than I should have.
What counts is developing a culture, a language, a way of being on the path, together. This is reinforced by daily decisions and actions. A coach can model these behaviors but ultimately the athlete must commit to the journey.
However, it must be a path they inherently want to travel, not you, as a well intended coach, want them to walk. Only then will they have the fortitude and resiliency to weather the vicissitudes encountered and stay the course to see successful outcomes materialize.
Thanks for reading. I'm glad you're here. // jm